20% of the words you use have strong emotional undertones triggering chemistry that will either make you feel strong, capable and empowered, or inadequate, insignificant and disempowered.
How do you speak to yourself about yourself?
Is your inner dialogue supportive and encouraging? Or are you busy repeating to yourself the numerous negative words and phrases we’ve all been told before we were even seven years old? Phrases like Don’t touch that . . . Don’t do that . . . Didn’t I tell you . . . NO, you can’t . . . When are you going to learn? . . .and on and on.
Back in 1970, a study by anthropologist Raymond Birdwhistell (don’t you love that name?) proved that the words you speak to yourself generate 100% of the results you get in your life as your ‘eager-to-please’ brain interprets and follows your instructions.
“Our self-worth is 100% reliant on the thoughts and
words of our inner dialogue”
When we replace negative words with more positive ones to talk to ourselves – and others – we update our neural patterns and create a different, more healthy and happier reality for ourselves.
Your subconscious mind remembers every good thing that has ever happened to you. Focus your attention on the word GOOD and it will remind you of them.
Quantum Physics tells us that the universe and everything in it, is made of vibrating energy; everything, no matter what state it is in – solid or otherwise. And it’s no different with words.
“The most important words you will ever use
are those you say to yourself”
Each key word has its own individual frequency. Powerful, high energy words such as excitement, joy, success, appreciation or love, vibrate higher and faster.
Your brain loves the sound of your own voice, and pays keen attention to what you say, especially to yourself. Using high frequency words releases ‘feel good’ chemistry in your body.
Conversely, low-energy words, particularly words that have a negative emotional association such as fail, hurt, disappointment, guilt, all resonate at a lower frequency.
It’s been scientifically proven that low-energy thoughts and words lower the immune system and make people more prone to illness.
Research indicates that thinking happy thoughts can add as many as NINE years to your life!
Fortunately, high-energy words seem to exhibit a field of dominance over low-energy words.
Do a google search on the word good – you’ll be astonished at the number of websites listed if you take time to go through all the pages. If you search for the word bad, you’ll get around half as many pages.
Imagine those websites represent all the memories and chains of meaning associated with those words filed in your brain. That would mean that by having your mind focus on the word good, you’ll get twice as many results in your life as when you focus on the word bad.
“Your brain has a natural bias for flaws and negativity”
Why do you have to focus on the word good to get those results? Why do they appear automatically for the word bad?
The role of our lower or reptilian brain is to keep us alive, so it constantly scans for threats. It sees the world in terms of good or bad, alive or dead.
Fortunately, there are two crucial factors in our favour that allow us to control this automatic function:
- The brain has plasticity which allows it to change according to the stimuli (directions) it receives, and
- We all have the wonderful gift of Free Will.
Unless you have a gun held at your head, you always have the power of choice. It’s always up to you what you give your attention to. You can choose the words you use.
Just switching your words is a wonderful way to change your life. Pay attention to the words you use. Make a list of them and create alternatives. Here are some suggestions to help you start:
Don’t worry – You’ll be fine
It needs more effort – It needs more energy
It’s hard – It’s not easy
I’m feeling sick – I don’t feel well
I forgot – I didn’t remember
I’ve been working hard – I’ve been working well
Don’t drop that – Hold that carefully
I’m trying to change – I’m more successful every day
If you find it less than easy to replace a low-energy word such as ‘difficult’ or ‘hard’, use the the words ‘challenging’ or ‘stretching’ instead. I guarantee you’ll soon have some interesting sentences coming out of your mouth!
You can turn your ‘problems’ into ‘puzzles’ or ‘opportunities for growth’.
“Make your subconscious mind your ally”
We know the subconscious mind is the CEO of our choices so enlist its help to achieve the results you want. Here are three tips for engaging your subconscious when selecting words that empower you.
- Speak in the now – as though it’s already happening – instead of ‘will be’. Speaking in present tense makes the subconscious mind act to support this – now!
- When planning something, add a health connection, e.g. ‘I’m presenting to the team and I’m totally calm and relaxed.’ Why? Because the subconscious mind’s prime directive is to preserve your health and well-being.
- Make a point of using high-energy words in your everyday conversations, both with yourself and with others. Choose one word and focus on it for one day. You’ll soon reap the rewards of this simple and easy change.